Listen for Understanding
Many conversations become arguments because both sides are preparing replies instead of seeking understanding. Genuine influence starts with curiosity rather than persuasion.
Practice Better Listening
- Ask one more question before offering advice.
- Reflect back what you heard before responding.
- Look for the need behind the words.
Connection First
People are far more likely to consider your perspective once they feel their own has been understood.
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